Divorce, Parenting and Relationship Conflicts
Marital Dissolution and Separations
- Child Custody and Parenting Time Agreements
- Spousal and Child Support
- Division of Assets and Debts
- Modification of Existing Orders
- Pre and Post-Marital Agreements
Divorce does not have to be a zero-sum game, in which someone has to lose before the other person can win, which is usually how courtroom battles end. There is a better way.
Mediation is a Risk-Free First Resort
You can still hire a lawyer and go to court if some or all of the issues have not been resolved. Discussions and documents shared at mediation are confidential and cannot used in evidence.
Mediation is Inexpensive
The average litigated divorce costs about $20,000, while even most lengthy, multiple-session mediations are well under $1,000. Litigation is an adversarial process, and legal fees build up quickly. Each party pays to communicate to his or her own attorney, then pays their attorney to communicate with the other attorney. Each party pays for the discovery process, attorney court appearances, document preparation and hearing and trial preparation. Mediation saves you money by encouraging direct communication between you and your spouse.
Mediation is Faster
Litigating a divorce in Central Oregon often takes months or over a year, while in mediation parties can leave a single mediation with a written agreement then file their own basic court documents.
Mediation is Private
When you litigate your divorce, your personal and financial information contained in filed court documents becomes public record. When you mediate, everything remains private.
Mediation is Less Stressful
Though divorce is usually traumatic, mediation offers a respectful, dignified way to create a win-win outcome, and can produce feelings of competency and integrity. Drawn out court battles often exaggerate already charged emotions and leave parties bitter and resentful.
When You Mediate, You—Not a Judge—Have Control
You can create an agreement that fits your family’s needs, rather than one imposed on them by a stranger.
Mediation Models Respectful Behavior for Your Children
You can avoid exposing your children to damaging parental conflict and instead model cooperation and communication.
Mediated Agreements Last Without Returning to Court
When both spouses participate in creating the agreement, they are more likely to comply with its terms than one imposed on them. Research shows not only that mediated agreements have a higher compliance rate than court-ordered agreements, but that parties are more satisfied with mediated agreements and are better able to participate in joint activities like sports events, piano recitals, graduations and weddings.
You Get to Say Your Piece
In court, the judge only hears only evidence which s/he believes is relevant to the case and admissible under the laws of evidence, while in a mediation any issue can be discussed.
Relationships Won’t Be Destroyed by Fighting in Court
After litigation the parties usually continue to have an adversarial relationship, while after mediation relationships are usually repaired, preserved, strengthened or ended more amicably.
You control the schedule and location.
Eight Myths of Divorce Mediation
Traditionally couples divorce as adversaries, hiring separate attorneys to wrangle over child custody and support, maintenance, assets and anything else they care about, even the dog. It’s high stakes poker. Ante up: legal costs, kids, stress.
Mediating Your Divorce
Divorce can be traumatic. Too often, it’s emotionally and financially devastating. A traditional divorce can leave you exhausted, bitter and broke.
To Reconcile, Negotiate, Mediate or Litigate?
If you have a choice, going to court should be the last resort for a divorcing couple. Using a marriage mediator is a better way.
Deschutes County Self-Represented Dissolution
Divorce is a difficult and complicated process but the Deschutes County Circuit Court offers programs to assist the public in understanding and working through the court process.
Deschutes County Custody and Parenting Time
Court-ordered child custody determines who has the legal responsibility to care for and make decisions about a child. Custody can be decided in a divorce.